It’s tempting to treat annoying behaviors as problems that need to be solved. When we do that, we risk missing a chance to strengthen our connection with our children. More often than not, they are trying to tell us something. They need us to look beyond the accidents or tantrums or whatever else is going on and draw them close. They need us to speak the words for the experiences and feelings they can’t yet verbalize. They need us to remind them that we are still here when everything else is changing, that we love them no matter what they do, that we will keep them safe when the world seems scary, and that we will understand how hard it can be to say good-bye to a favorite preschool teacher.